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Police Me Too has been set up by a victim/survivor
Amplifying the voices of women and girls who were abused by police instead of protected.
Each and every one of us deserves to be heard.
So, let’s show every police force that it isn’t just ‘one bad apple’, but their culture. We need structural and systemic changes to address the institutionalised misogyny and the closing of ranks. We need it to change. Now.
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Natalie | we dated for 12 weeks
I met him on a dating app, I can’t remember which one. I know now that there were red flags that I either ignored, didn’t see or didn’t realise were red flags at the time. He was full on immediately. He told me he loved that I was a “real
Marissa | Sexual assault of a young drunk girl in Macdonalds
This is not about me but a school ‘friend’ who is a police officer. He has ‘bragged’ to me in the past about various indiscretions and sexualised behaviour towards female colleagues including having an affair (he is married) with a much younger colleague which lasted a few months.About two years
Marissa | My daughter was intimated and threatened by several young male police officers
This is actually about my daughter who was about 19 years old at the time. She was out for a drive in her own car with her then boyfriend. They had parked up about a mile from our home to have a chat and smoke a few cigarettes in the
Victoria | Child abuse
I am now in my 50s, but over 40 years ago I was sexually abused over the course of several years by a retired police officer who lived near us. He was trusted and respected by everyone, including my parents, which is partly what enabled him to continue the abuse
Poppy |
I was in a relationship with a Police Officer who became violent after the birth of our child. Looking back with more mature eyes, I can now recognise coercive control from the very start; but younger me did not. He first punched me hard in the back, between my shoulder
Grace | Threatened with arrest by lone officer
I was stopped by a lone police officer while walking home in SW London during the time Levi Bellfield (as we now know) was attacking women in the area with a hammer. I had my keys between my fingers and was on high alert for men on their own. The
Ashleigh | Rape and emotional abuse, he’s now on the force…
Not sure if my story counts as he wasn’t a police officer at the time. We had been on a few dates and I ended up at his house. Nothing happened and I stayed the night. Things got a bit heated the next day and when I said no he
Elaine | Reported rape to call handler. Still waiting on a call back.
Reported via phone to Bedfordshire Police that an officer they employed had been raping me over many years. Nobody ever called back. Constabulary: Bedfordshire Police Timespan: Several years ago Did you report it to the police?: Yes Your ethnicity: White British Have you experienced suicidality due to this?: Thoughts/feelings Are you
Jessica | Won’t take no for an answer
I worked with a civilian employee of the police force. We got on well at work and I considered him a friend. He got a new job and we would occasionally message. When he found my long term partner and I had broken up, his messages increased in frequency and
Jessica | Few dates & years of stalking via social media
I went out with a guy who joined the police whilst we were dating for a few months. We were friends on Facebook but after things ended, he removed and deleted me, which is fine. However, he would then try to add me again and then create different accounts and
Deedee |
I went through sexual harassment by a supervising officer when I first joined the police. It was brushed under the carpet and he went on to do something worse to someone else. Constabulary: N/A or Prefer not to say Timespan: 2018 Did you report it to the police?: Yes
Risen | Silencing
I was physically attacked by a police officer and falsely convicted. I had been engaging with him but found him to be obnoxious (to say the least). He kept telling me not to swear because it was an ‘arrestable offence’. I had not committed a crime and was not being
Teenie | Coercive control
I was married to a high ranking police officer for 13 years. I didn’t realise the extent to which I’d been a victim of abuse until I left. I was what would now be described as coercively controlled. I was gas lighted regularly, no one would believe me, he told
Simone | Over attentive
About 25 years ago I was single and living in a flat on my own. My car was vandalised and I reported it to the police. The officer came round the same day and spent a long time talking to me. He scared me a little by suggesting that the
Hope | Married to a Monster
Married to a serving police officer for 9 years who worked in various different forces throughout the UK. At first everything seemed great, especially when we were dating, he seemed caring and loving and funny and knew what to say and how to be. A real charmer in every way.
Martha | Gaslighting
My ex husband was, and I believe still is a police officer. We divorced about a decade ago only it is only now that I am realising and dealing with the fact that I was psychologically abused by him. At the time I had never heard of gaslighting and certainly
Silenced | I was outnumbered
On the [redaction made for legal reasons] following a ‘check on welfare’ call out the police force [redaction made for legal reasons] turned up instead of an ambulance. The police force [redaction made for legal reasons] sent 2 police vans and a police car at approximately [redaction made for legal
Leanne | Harassment and stalking
I met him in a professional setting (dog handler/ vet) he was charming and flattered me to the point of being cringeworthy…he later looked me up on Facebook and started to message me. I remained friendly and professional but I started to see him drive slowly past my house early
Norma | Protecting Paedophile Officer
In 1998, while I was still at school, I was groomed and sexually abused by a 47 year old married man. The man dressed like a police officer and carried handcuffs in his bag on his way to work. He told me he was a court guard. Last year I
Polly | Waiting for a train
I was waiting on a train platform at Sheffield to pick my husband up from a train. It was in the days before mobiles so if you said a place you had to be there at the right time. There was a crowd of policemen waiting for a football train.
Lily | Childhood abuse
My biological father is/was a high ranking police officer.He physically and verbally abused me throughout my childhood. He choked me, beat me, dragged me down the stairs by my hair. He smashed my face into a plate. He would accuse me of things I didn’t do so he had an