Marissa | My daughter was intimated and threatened by several young male police officers

This is actually about my daughter who was about 19 years old at the time. She was out for a drive in her own car with her then boyfriend. They had parked up about a mile from our home to have a chat and smoke a few cigarettes in the car, overlooking the sea. It was night time (I can’t recall what time) and dark. Suddenly a police van pulled up behind them and at least six young male police officers jumped out of the van. They ordered both my daughter and her boyfriend out of the car to question them. They took my daughter’s boyfriend out of sight of my daughter and kept her beside her car for at least 20 minutes. The officers stood uncomfortably close up to me daughter, effectively pinning her against the car as she moved back from them. They questioned her about what they were doing in the car and when she explained that they were just chatting, they started to laugh and joke and say things like ‘I bet you were screwing weren’t you?’ and ‘do you like having sex in public? We can arrest you for that you know. I bet you like it don’t you?’

Eventually they let them both go. When they got home, they were both very shaken up by the incident and angry as they had been doing nothing wrong. My daughter in particular felt very scared and sexualised by the officers and was convinced they were going to sexually assault her (although they didn’t).

It’s one of these things that is difficult to report because nothing ‘actually’ happened but my daughter was very shaken up by the whole incident and has no trust in the police now at all.

Constabulary: Police Scotland

Timespan: About 3 years ago

Did you report it to the police?: No

Your ethnicity: White British

Have you experienced suicidality due to this?: No

Are you disabled as defined under the Equality Act 2010?: No

Illustration by Danny Noble

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