Ashleigh | Rape and emotional abuse, he’s now on the force…

Not sure if my story counts as he wasn’t a police officer at the time. We had been on a few dates and I ended up at his house. Nothing happened and I stayed the night. Things got a bit heated the next day and when I said no he didn’t stop. He carried on and he was so much bigger than me I couldn’t fight it so I gave up. I left right after and cried all the way home in the car. The next few days I drove 50 miles away and spent the weekend with a friend. He accused me of ‘cheating’ and being a ‘slag’ and sleeping around when we weren’t even officially together and I wasn’t sleeping with anybody. I went to my friends to escape him. He ruined my life.

I had 18 months of counselling following this and as soon as I felt like I could live with it I found out he went on to become a police officer for an area near my home. I will never call the police again for help, what if my abuser turns up at my door?

I don’t know if I should speak out or tell anybody about this. He wasn’t an officer at the time and who do I go to with my concerns? He works at the police force that serves my area. It was 3 years ago, how will I be taken seriously?

I feel that if I don’t say anything I am responsible for any additional abuse of power to anybody else and I don’t know if I can live with that guilt over my head.

Constabulary: N/A or Prefer not to say

Timespan: Late 2018

Did you report it to the police?: No

Your ethnicity: Prefer not to say

Have you experienced suicidality due to this?: Thoughts/feelings

Are you disabled as defined under the Equality Act 2010?: No

Image by Danny Noble

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