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Police Me Too has been set up by a victim/survivor
Amplifying the voices of women and girls who were abused by police instead of protected.
Each and every one of us deserves to be heard.
So, let’s show every police force that it isn’t just ‘one bad apple’, but their culture. We need structural and systemic changes to address the institutionalised misogyny and the closing of ranks. We need it to change. Now.
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No One is Listening | Police Staff Abuse
I was subject to racist and sexist harassment while working for the Police. One particular male police staff who was on the same pay grade came across as weird and made my life there hell to the point I never want to work for the Police ever again. This male
Lisa | Controlling stalky ex-officer
An ex police officer and now an ex teacher.He uses so many variations of his name to cover his tracks.He’s the most unsettling person I’ve come across. We were never in a relationship. Colleagues whose paths crossed. He became intense, troubling so. Colleagues raised concerns regarding his possessiveness. I couldn’t
Rachel | Bullying
I work in the police. I’ve experienced bullying and harassment from male police officers-some senior. They know they can get away with it because all of us are too scared to report it to psd. All the people who work in the professional standards team know everyone-they drink together, they
Workingwelshmama |
I experienced seven years of domestic abuse after I left my husband, who is a serving police officer. I complained to the police that I was being harassed and a senior officer told me it was “just divorce”; nothing was ever done, no crimes were recorded and no action was
| My story of exploitation & the CJS
At the age of 13, an older male began to sexually exploit me. My number was shared with multiple men living in the same City but also other cities across the country. At the age of 17, one of the accomplices of the man who began to exploit me when
Adam | Girls being raped and trafficked
I was a frontline civil servant protecting children especially girls and women who had been targeted by sex offenders and criminal gangs in the West Midlands . The girls had been taken overnight from hostels and private care providers where they had been gang raped and trafficked. CCTV footage showed
Bea | Coercive control financial mental control sabotage.
When I met my husband in 2004 he seemed like a man who’d been treated very badly and been robbed of having his own children only to be cast off through infidelity. In fact when you learn the truth it’s frightening how twisted his reality is and how convincingly he
Claire77 | Taken advantage of when drunk and vulnerable
I was on a night out in St Helens, Merseyside and got very drunk, I was about 23 and living with an abusive and controlling older man. For some reason the police had been called to where I was, about 4am in the morning and the two male police officers
Ms E | Wrongful arrest
I was married to an extremely controlling and manipulative person, who is respected in the mental health profession. He called the police after I discovered he was taping our conversation. He was was trying to provoke a reaction. He accused me of attacking him. Which I couldn’t do as I
Victim | Let down by corrupt police
My abusers family know police officers. My abuse from my ex who is not in the police was downplayed and not reported properly. The first officer who I eventually reported the abuse to told me to ‘man up’. When my ex took my son and I to family court after
Survivor | Police officer relationship
I was a new police officer and was drawn into a relationship with a married officer who trained me. He coercively controlled me. Mentally and emotionally abused me. Isolated me. Financially abused me. I couldn’t report it because he had made sure our colleagues hated me and I wouldn’t have
Revictimized | Sexually assaulted by a relatives boyfriend, a year later after the trial sexually accosted by local cop in my own home.
Aged 13 I was sexually assaulted by a man who was found guilty and sentenced to 3 months in prison. When I was 14 several of our local neighbourhood friendly bobbies often came to our house for a cuppa and a chat with my parents to see how I was
| Stripped by a male officer in cells
I was arrested for being drunk and disorderly on a train and booked into custody, had all my possessions removed and put into a cell in my clothes (T-shirt and jeans) About two hours afterwards, two male police officers said that I had to remove my clothes and put on
Bee | The Police [redaction made for legal reasons] Ruined My Life
After being in a committed relationship for approximately 6 years, we had built a picture perfect life together – a family home, 2-3 holidays a year, children, an investment property, striving to a bright future. I didn’t see the signs at the time, but the gaslighting, degradation and coercive control
Natalie | unsolicited dick pic
A guy I’d flirted with on and off for a few years – a friend of a friend. We were text messaging each other. Just chatting – there’d been nothing sexual, no dates or even meeting up. I remember being sat in my living room watching tv and about to
Natalie | we dated for 12 weeks
I met him on a dating app, I can’t remember which one. I know now that there were red flags that I either ignored, didn’t see or didn’t realise were red flags at the time. He was full on immediately. He told me he loved that I was a “real
Marissa | Sexual assault of a young drunk girl in Macdonalds
This is not about me but a school ‘friend’ who is a police officer. He has ‘bragged’ to me in the past about various indiscretions and sexualised behaviour towards female colleagues including having an affair (he is married) with a much younger colleague which lasted a few months.About two years
Marissa | My daughter was intimated and threatened by several young male police officers
This is actually about my daughter who was about 19 years old at the time. She was out for a drive in her own car with her then boyfriend. They had parked up about a mile from our home to have a chat and smoke a few cigarettes in the
Victoria | Child abuse
I am now in my 50s, but over 40 years ago I was sexually abused over the course of several years by a retired police officer who lived near us. He was trusted and respected by everyone, including my parents, which is partly what enabled him to continue the abuse
Poppy |
I was in a relationship with a Police Officer who became violent after the birth of our child. Looking back with more mature eyes, I can now recognise coercive control from the very start; but younger me did not. He first punched me hard in the back, between my shoulder