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Jane | Reporting rape to police

While giving a statement about a rape to two Police Scotland officers one officer wrote the statement down while the other officer fell asleep. It made me feel worthless and insignificant. Constabulary: Police Scotland Timespan: Several years ago Did you report it to the police?: Yes Your ethnicity: White British

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Natalie | unsolicited dick pic

A guy I’d flirted with on and off for a few years – a friend of a friend. We were text messaging each other. Just chatting – there’d been nothing sexual, no dates or even meeting up. I remember being sat in my living room watching tv and about to

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Natalie | we dated for 12 weeks

I met him on a dating app, I can’t remember which one. I know now that there were red flags that I either ignored, didn’t see or didn’t realise were red flags at the time. He was full on immediately. He told me he loved that I was a “real

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Marissa | Sexual assault of a young drunk girl in Macdonalds

This is not about me but a school ‘friend’ who is a police officer. He has ‘bragged’ to me in the past about various indiscretions and sexualised behaviour towards female colleagues including having an affair (he is married) with a much younger colleague which lasted a few months.About two years

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Victoria | Child abuse

I am now in my 50s, but over 40 years ago I was sexually abused over the course of several years by a retired police officer who lived near us. He was trusted and respected by everyone, including my parents, which is partly what enabled him to continue the abuse

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Poppy |

I was in a relationship with a Police Officer who became violent after the birth of our child. Looking back with more mature eyes, I can now recognise coercive control from the very start; but younger me did not. He first punched me hard in the back, between my shoulder

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Grace | Threatened with arrest by lone officer

I was stopped by a lone police officer while walking home in SW London during the time Levi Bellfield (as we now know) was attacking women in the area with a hammer. I had my keys between my fingers and was on high alert for men on their own. The

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Elaine | Reported rape to call handler. Still waiting on a call back.

Reported via phone to Bedfordshire Police that an officer they employed had been raping me over many years. Nobody ever called back. Constabulary: Bedfordshire Police Timespan: Several years ago Did you report it to the police?: Yes Your ethnicity: White British Have you experienced suicidality due to this?: Thoughts/feelings Are you

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Jessica | Won’t take no for an answer

I worked with a civilian employee of the police force. We got on well at work and I considered him a friend. He got a new job and we would occasionally message. When he found my long term partner and I had broken up, his messages increased in frequency and

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Deedee |

I went through sexual harassment by a supervising officer when I first joined the police. It was brushed under the carpet and he went on to do something worse to someone else.   Constabulary: N/A or Prefer not to say Timespan: 2018 Did you report it to the police?: Yes

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Risen | Silencing

I was physically attacked by a police officer and falsely convicted. I had been engaging with him but found him to be obnoxious (to say the least). He kept telling me not to swear because it was an ‘arrestable offence’. I had not committed a crime and was not being

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Teenie | Coercive control

I was married to a high ranking police officer for 13 years. I didn’t realise the extent to which I’d been a victim of abuse until I left. I was what would now be described as coercively controlled. I was gas lighted regularly, no one would believe me, he told

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Simone | Over attentive

About 25 years ago I was single and living in a flat on my own. My car was vandalised and I reported it to the police. The officer came round the same day and spent a long time talking to me. He scared me a little by suggesting that the

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Hope | Married to a Monster

Married to a serving police officer for 9 years who worked in various different forces throughout the UK. At first everything seemed great, especially when we were dating, he seemed caring and loving and funny and knew what to say and how to be. A real charmer in every way.

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Martha | Gaslighting

My ex husband was, and I believe still is a police officer. We divorced about a decade ago only it is only now that I am realising and dealing with the fact that I was psychologically abused by him. At the time I had never heard of gaslighting and certainly

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