Your stories

Jessica | Won’t take no for an answer

I worked with a civilian employee of the police force. We got on well at work and I considered him a friend. He got a new job and we would occasionally message. When he found my long term partner and I had broken up, his messages increased in frequency and

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Deedee |

I went through sexual harassment by a supervising officer when I first joined the police. It was brushed under the carpet and he went on to do something worse to someone else.   Constabulary: N/A or Prefer not to say Timespan: 2018 Did you report it to the police?: Yes

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Risen | Silencing

I was physically attacked by a police officer and falsely convicted. I had been engaging with him but found him to be obnoxious (to say the least). He kept telling me not to swear because it was an ‘arrestable offence’. I had not committed a crime and was not being

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Teenie | Coercive control

I was married to a high ranking police officer for 13 years. I didn’t realise the extent to which I’d been a victim of abuse until I left. I was what would now be described as coercively controlled. I was gas lighted regularly, no one would believe me, he told

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Simone | Over attentive

About 25 years ago I was single and living in a flat on my own. My car was vandalised and I reported it to the police. The officer came round the same day and spent a long time talking to me. He scared me a little by suggesting that the

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Hope | Married to a Monster

Married to a serving police officer for 9 years who worked in various different forces throughout the UK. At first everything seemed great, especially when we were dating, he seemed caring and loving and funny and knew what to say and how to be. A real charmer in every way.

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Martha | Gaslighting

My ex husband was, and I believe still is a police officer. We divorced about a decade ago only it is only now that I am realising and dealing with the fact that I was psychologically abused by him. At the time I had never heard of gaslighting and certainly

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Silenced | I was outnumbered

On the [redaction made for legal reasons] following a ‘check on welfare’ call out the police force [redaction made for legal reasons] turned up instead of an ambulance. The police force [redaction made for legal reasons] sent 2 police vans and a police car at approximately [redaction made for legal

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Leanne | Harassment and stalking

I met him in a professional setting (dog handler/ vet) he was charming and flattered me to the point of being cringeworthy…he later looked me up on Facebook and started to message me. I remained friendly and professional but I started to see him drive slowly past my house early

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Norma | Protecting Paedophile Officer

In 1998, while I was still at school, I was groomed and sexually abused by a 47 year old married man. The man dressed like a police officer and carried handcuffs in his bag on his way to work. He told me he was a court guard. Last year I

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Polly | Waiting for a train

I was waiting on a train platform at Sheffield to pick my husband up from a train. It was in the days before mobiles so if you said a place you had to be there at the right time. There was a crowd of policemen waiting for a football train.

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Lily | Childhood abuse

My biological father is/was a high ranking police officer.He physically and verbally abused me throughout my childhood. He choked me, beat me, dragged me down the stairs by my hair. He smashed my face into a plate. He would accuse me of things I didn’t do so he had an

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Margaret | Help for sexual favours

I was 17, my Dad had recently died I was in turmoil. I was arrested one night for trespass taken to the police station by two police men. One was an older man the other was young. I was bailed and my mum came to get me. Whilst home alone

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Barnowl | Blowjob or you are in trouble.

I was no angel at that time, I had been in trouble with the Police for minor episodes of drunk and disorderly and shop lifting, nothing serious I was I think about 17 years old. I used to get stopped at the side of the road quite often and questioned.

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Faith | I was told the abuse I suffered was my fault

When I was 19-20 I was in a very violent relationship. Many times police were called by neighbours etc and every time my BF spoke to them – they never asked to speak to me. Eventually my best friend told my family who staged an intervention and that night called

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Dax | How police management treat women in policing

I left my ex husband in 2007 as he was violent & abusive, I was in the police and he was a retired officer.As a single parent of a small child I applied for flexible working hours and faced unbearable pressure to constantly change my hours. In 2015 I made

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