In 2007 I reported a historical rape to police from when I was a teenager. Police tracked down witnesses. One was a boy from school who I hadn’t seen in ten years. He gave his phone number to the OIC to give me with a message about how he wanted to help me. I rang him and met for a catch up. I was a vulnerable victim of crime and the OIC failed to tell me/take into account that this person had just left prison for drug dealing, had a string of convictions including assaults.
He very quickly began controlling my life and cutting me off from people. I got pregnant and the domestic violence and abuse got worse. He is very controlling and manipulative. He also had a drug addiction. When the baby was born he pretty near beat me up. I thought he was going to kill me. He smashed my phone up and hit me and dragged me. I managed to find an old mobile and call my dad who called police. They did arrest him but then bailed him back to my home next day even though I begged them not to. The abuse restarted. I called the police about domestic abuse but they either did nothing or they’d turn up and just take him for a drive. This went on for three more years until I was pregnant again and my now two year old told my health visitor ‘daddy hit mummy’ and she got social services involved and he moved out. However it didn’t stop there. He repeatedly contacts me and manipulates me and guilt trips me. Last year after I’d gone lonely as a single mum in lockdown I agreed to see him again- he seemed to have taken some positive steps in his life and seemed better. However this didn’t last and one time he put a Stanley knife to my throat. I told police and they arrested him but didn’t charge him.
I actually started volunteering for the police recently in archives but they took this away from me because they said I still have contact with him. They don’t seem to understand I have little control over this. If I change my number he just finds it out. If I block his number he just calls from a different phone. They have let me down time and time again. It’s ironic that they kicked me out of volunteer work because of a person that they practically handed me over to in the first place, knowing he was dodgy. If they’d apologised or tried to help me out of that situation in the first place, but they didn’t. They just left me there. I think he’d have to actually kill me before they take any notice.
Constabulary: Gloucestershire Constabulary
Timespan: The past decade
Did you report it to the police?: Yes
Your ethnicity: White British
Have you experienced suicidality due to this?: Thoughts/feelings
Are you disabled as defined under the Equality Act 2010?: No
