I’ve just ended a relationship with a police officer. I’m broken. Very quickly I seen red flags I questioned his separation, why he was at his ex house a lot, he stayed when the kids were sick. Ended it numerous times as I suspected it was an affair. He begged me not to leave him, made promises after a disciplinary he was facing was over our life would be great, I supported his mental health, his stress, the medication he was taking. He said I was the best thing that had ever happened to him. He had never had love like this. He adored, loved and would never ever hurt me. He has. I tried so many times to end it he kept coming back. Told me he had thought of suicide but I saved him. And now I feel stupid. This man had a wife and children and I found out they were together an hour before he boarded a flight.
So on return from holiday I ended it and he told his wife I was pursuing him, wouldn’t let him go. And I’m now on the receiving end of abusive messages, her sister attempting to open her car door causing me to nearly crash. Videoing me picking my daughter up from school so now the police are involved and want me to make a statement. Referred to me as a victim of domestic abuse. I don’t know what to do. They plan to speak to the family to say stay away, a warning if you like. And now his bosses are involved to question his conduct which just sounds a mess. And I feel it’s my fault. All my fault
Constabulary: Police Scotland
Timespan: Over last 2 years
Did you report it to the police?: Yes
Your ethnicity: White British
Have you experienced suicidality due to this?: Thoughts/feelings
Are you disabled as defined under the Equality Act 2010?: No