Flying | Coercive control, financial abuse


Married to an officer for over 10 years. Attempted to leave multiple times. Was threatened with being done for child kidnapping if I left with the kids and child abandonment if I dared leave without them.

Eventually they were arrested for assaulting me and removed from the home- but they were allowed to stay on front facing duties and let off without charge.

Have spent the last three years dealing with post separation abuse through the courts, financial abuse through lack of child support and vexatious litigation. Have reported it all to the police multiple times. Not sure why I’ve bothered, they don’t take statements and don’t care. I know what they’re like from years of being married into it, yet it’s still shocking what they get away with.

Constabulary: N/A or Prefer not to say

Timespan: Ongoing for 3 years now

Did you report it to the police?: Yes

Do you want to revisit this with the police?: No

Could you tell us why not?: Because I’ve tried multiple times and they have no interest in making the abuse stop.

Your ethnicity: Prefer not to say

Have you experienced suicidality due to this?: Thoughts/feelings

Are you disabled as defined under the Equality Act 2010?: No


illustration by Danny Noble

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